Notice and Do: Raise Capable Kids, End Motherhood Burnout, and Lighten Your Mental Load Hardcover – October 20, 2026

Lighten your mental load and end mom burnout for good with a new kind of parenting book that teaches your kids to notice what needs to be done at home—and do it—without waiting to be asked.You’re sick of the constant push-and-pull to get your kids to clean (which, let’s be real, often ends up with you doing it yourself). With Notice and Do, there’s a new way. Through accessible but revolutionary techniques, parenting coach Sam Kelly will teach you how to empower your entire family to share the mental load and proactively contribute at home with eight black and white illustrations and 14 photos.This proven, research-backed method breaks the cycle of burnout and inequitable partnerships, liberating moms from the burden of being the engine that keeps everything running, and sets your kids up to be self-motivated, resilient adults. With Notice and Do, you will learn:the easy and effective way to teach kids cleaning skills so they can confidently get stuff done on their ownhow to teach kids to notice what needs to be done, for themselves, as the first step to taking initiativeage-specific scripts to get buy-in and action from toddlers-teens (even the resistant ones!)how to show your daughters that shouldering the mental load is not their default settinghow to show your sons that they are just as capable of being an aware, proactive team player at homeways to work with kids with ADHD and teenagers without yelling, bribes, or constant micromanaginggetting your partner on board so everyone in the family is participating in the invisible labor of managing the homeSay goodbye to the one-mom-show and exhausting chore chart battles and hello to a life-changing whole family team who shares the mental load together and works with you, instead of one that works because of you. Read more